When they ask you out on a date. When they show romantic or sexual interest in you. They might try to get your attention or interest. They might give you praise or compliments. And this could be quite flattering to you. We all like positive attention. We all want to feel admired. But there is a big difference between being attended to and admired by a regular person and a narcissist. When a narcissist hits on you, it's only because they see you as something impressive or attractive. They only see the outer shell. It doesn't go any deeper than that. But with a regular person, they will be more curious about you. They will be asking questions. They will be eager to know more about you. Because their standards or expectations are more than something superficial. They're more than something existing on the surface. But all the narcissist really wants is something that looks good and makes them look good. They don't care about anything else. It's all about their image or repuation. That's all that really matters to them. There is nothing flattering about being hit on by a narcissist. It's the same thing as someone renting a luxury car for the weekend. They like the car. It looks good. It's fast. It's powerful. And when they take it out, they have a lot of fun with it. It makes them feel good about themselves. But they don't really care about that car. They don't really respect it. They love what it can do for them. They love how it makes them look good. They love how it makes them feel. But once they've had their fun, it's over. And when they return the car, it's never in the same condition as when they picked it up. By the time they're finished with it, it's probably got all kinds of damage. There's probably loads of rubbish left inside it. Maybe it's out of fuel. But the narcissist doesn't care about any of that. They were looking for something temporary. Something they could use for a few days without any worries or consequences. Something to make them feel better about themselves. And when they're done, they leave it for someone else to pick up the pieces. And it's the same thing when you deal with these narcissists. They don't care about you. They don't respect you. And when they hit on you, it really has nothing to do with you. It's just this fantasy that they have created in their own minds. Of what they think you are. And of what you're going to do for them. And how you're going to make them feel. It has nothing to do with giving you the proper care and respect that you deserve. You won't get that from a narcissist, because it's all about them. They don't come into your life to give you anything. They're only there because they're deficient in something. And they want to take something from you. They just want to use you for their own selfish desires or needs. And when you accept their advances, they don't see it as though you're on the same page. They don't see it as though you're on the same level. They just see you as another fool that has fallen for their manipulative game. Another fool that they're going to take advantage of and then dispose of, whenever you start to realise what's really happening. When a narcissist hits on you, it's not because they care for you or respect you. It's not because they want to take you out or treat you right. It's all about them and want they think they're going to get out of it. They might like what they see. They might find you attractive. But they don't even know how to treat you. They wouldn't know how to do deal with a respectable man or woman. They wouldn't know how to give you the proper care and attention that you deserve. They wouldn't know how to treat you right. And they have no desire to learn how you want to be treated. Because it's all about them. It's all about what they take from you. You won't find anything good from dealing with these narcissists. All they're going to do is take everything from you, without giving you anything in return. And then they're just going to leave you broken and confused, wondering what just happened. So when a narcissist hits on you, don't let yourself become another one of their fools. Don't let them trick or deceive you. Respect yourself enough to walk away and realise that you deserve better. Respect yourself enough to realise that you deserve someone who knows what you want. Someone who knows how you deserve to be treated. And then you will find yourself involved in something that is mutually beneficial, where there is an equal exchange. Thank you for watching.
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