You may desire to find people who you think could be your friends. People who you can connect and associate with. To where you would have to rummage through. To separate what is useful from what is not. To find something that could be good for you. But you need to be very cautious. Especially after you've been dealing with a narcissist. Because now you're in a vulnerable state. So someone could come along just to take advantage of you. Which is why you need to be careful about who you let into your life. You need to ensure that you're only letting in people who are on your level. People who are honest, straightforward and sincere.
So that you know that they're not attempting to deceive you. Because when you get involved with people who are not on your level.That's when you start to get caught up in all kinds of things. It's when you start to get into trouble. Because then you're opening yourself up to people who are lesser than you. Which means that all they're going to do is try to manipulate and control you. So that they can use you to their advantage. Because there's no way that they're going to see a future with you. They already know that they're not going to be able to sustain anything long-term with someone of a higher caliber.
So by default, they're just going to see you as something that they can use in the moment. And then they're ready to get rid of you, once you start to catch on to them. Because they already know there's no future in something that started out as a game. They had to trick you to be around you in the first place. Otherwise you never would have crossed paths. Which is why they can only ever see you as an object. As something that they can use. So you need to be aware of who you are and what you have. It doesn't mean that you have to be alone. It just means that you need to find people who are going in the same direction
People who have a purpose. People who have their own intentions and objectives, outside of what they have with you. People who are creating things on their own. Because if they don't have their own purpose. And they don't have anything to keep them in check... It opens up the doors for them. To where they can cross over your boundaries and gain access to your life. And then you're forced to accept standards that are lower than what you desire. You're forced to lay yourself open to danger and harm. After everything you worked for and that you established in your life. Or after everything that you set out to achieve. And now you're surrounded by the wrong people.
People who don't have your best interest in mind. People who can only take and destroy. Which is why you must stop associating with people who are not on your level. Because otherwise you will be exposing yourself to the possibility of something unpleasant occurring again. Which may result in loss or failure. Because they will pretend to be a part of your goals and aspirations. They will pretend to be your friend. When they're just using you, because they're bored or lonely. Because they don't have anything else going on in their lives that keeps them in check. They have no meaningful purpose. They're not motivated or driven to better themselves. Which is why you need to stay on top of your game.
You need to become a master of your craft. Because that will help you to surround yourself with the right type of people. Who are all making great efforts to achieve and obtain what they want in life. Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that "we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with". So we are greatly influenced by our friendships and relationships. It affects our way of thinking, our self-esteem and our decisions. Which is why you need to surround yourself with positive, supportive people who want you to succeed. If you want to be better, you need to be around people who are at least on the same level as you. You can't go down and start settling for less than what you deserve. For people who are less than what you value yourself. Because that's not going to make you better.
Instead, you need to participate in competitive situations. With people who challenge you. You need be consciously aware of the people you're around. And of the people that you choose to let into your life. So that you stay focused on your purpose. Those who surround themselves with a lot of people. And they are very active on social media for recreational purposes. Those tend to be the most unhappiest and unhealthiest people psychologically. Because they're neglecting their most important relationship. Which is the relationship we're meant to have with ourselves. So remind yourself of your purpose in life. Remind yourself why you're doing everything that you're doing. What are you striving for? What are you trying to achieve? Reserve some time for self-reflection. It will prevent you from getting involved with people you're not meant to be involved with.
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