Narcissists are always so angry. But you may not always know why. Because there are some very weird things that make them angry. Things that you may not be aware of. Which is why I decided to create this video. 1. You're happy
When you are enjoying yourself, they will be angry. They will insult you. They will put you down. Or they will invalidate whatever it is that is making you happy. They will make you feel like you're wasting your time. Or as though you're doing something wrong. But even if you stop doing it, they will criticise you for that too. And they do it because they're never happy. They may look like they're happy, but it isn't real. They can't generate happiness from within. So when they see that you're happy, they have to shut it down. And when they do that, it gives them the illusion that they're happy. Because you're no longer feeling something that they can't feel. 2. You have friends They will be very angry when you are talking to your friends on the phone. Because they don't like it that you have friends. They want to isolate you. So that they can be your only source of influence. So that they can tell you what is right and what is wrong. What you should be doing and what you shouldn't do. If you have healthy friendships, it's going to make you look at them in a bad light. And they don't want that to happen. They don't want you to see all of the things that are wrong with them. They don't want you to see how bad they're treating you. Which is why they're so angry when you have friends. Because they want to keep a code of silence. They want to keep the abuse hidden behind closed doors. They don't want to be exposed to you or anyone else.
3. You achieved something When you achieve something, they will be real mad. And they will devalue you. They will underestimate your worth and importance. To the point where all of the positive things people have said about you won't even matter anymore. You won't even feel proud of your accomplishments. Because the narcissist's hurtful words have consumed you. They will get mad at your accomplishments. They will devalue you. To train you to not be proud of yourself. To train you to not enjoy your achievements. Until it causes you to become lazy. Until it causes you to defer action until opportunities are lost. Because they don't want you to be proud of yourself. They don't want you to be proud of anything. They want you to feel like what you're doing is never enough. Because that's exactly how they feel about themselves. They're not proud of anything they've done. So they want you to be the same. So that they don't feel so bad. 4. People notice you or compliment you A normal person would feel honoured and proud if someone complimented their partner, friend or child. They would agree with the positive things that are being said about them. They would recognise their positive qualities. So they would understand that people are noticing them and complimenting them. And they would feel honoured and proud. But narcissists will get very jealous. They will see it as though you're taking the spotlight away from them. And they won't like that. Because they have to be the center of attention.They have to outshine everyone and everything. 5. You confronted them If you point out anything wrong with their behaviour, they will get mad. Because in their minds if there's something wrong with their behaviour, there must be something wrong with you. You must be attacking them. And that's why they feel bad or wrong. They can dish it out, but they can't take it. They will find flaws in you. They will point out your faults and mistakes. They will tell you everything that they think is wrong with you. But they will be really angry if you think they're anything less than perfect.
Even if you don't point it out. Even if you're just joking. They will still take it as an insult. Because they're very sensitive. They're always on edge. So they will get mad at things that you least expect. Things that you're unaware of. Which is why most of the time, you may not even know why they're so mad. You may not have any idea. Because a lot of it is things that they have imagined in their minds.
It has nothing to do with you. They're just taking it out on you. Which is why there's really nothing you can do to stop them from being angry. Because it's not your fault. It's them. They get angry for really weird things. And then they gaslight you. They spin it around. They blame you. So that you end up feeling like you've done something wrong. So that you end up trying to fix everything. When it's really not your problem to fix. Which is why no matter what you do, they will never be happy.
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