They stopped replying to your texts. They stopped answering your phone calls. And they just disappeared off the face of the Earth. They were nowhere to be found. And you just want to know why? So here are 3 reasons why narcissists ghost you.
1. To punish you
Narcissists will often ghost you as a form of punishment. Although you may not even know what you did wrong. You may have just called them out on something. Maybe they lied to you. Or maybe they cheated on you. And you weren't happy about it. But then they suddenly ghosted you. They disappeared. Because they're trying to teach you a lesson. And you're meant to figure it out on your own. It's meant to condition you to not do whatever you did. Because if you do that, then this is what will happen. They will ghost you as a punishment. They will take away your access to them.
2. New supply The narcissist will ghost you when they're busy working on their new supply. Because they want to see if this new person is easier for them to deal with. They're testing the water. They're judging this new person's feelings and opinions before taking further action.
3. Failure Sometimes the narcissist will ghost you even though they don't have new supply. And the reason for that is because they've taken a fall. They've experienced some form of failure. And they don't want you to see it. They don't want to give you the satisfaction at their expense. After they said all of those things to you. Because they led you to believe that they didn't need you. And that they were going to be fine without you. But sometimes they take a fall. And they don't want you to know about it. Because they can't deal with the shame and embarrassment. So in those situations, they're going to stay ghost. You're not going to hear from them. Because they're not going to put themselves in a position where you could reject them. They have too much pride and ego. So they will stay hidden. How do you deal with the narcissist ghosting you? You don't deal with it. Because that's exactly what they want you to do. They want you to chase them. They want you to try to win them over. So don't do that. Don't even acknowledge their absence. Just assume that they're throwing another temper tantrum. Let them work it out on their own. And put the focus back on yourself and on your own life
As always, spot on! 👍